TOP 10 TIPS TO SURVIVE YOUR IN-LAWS (THESE HOLIDAYS)

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10 Tips to Survive Your In-Family (These Holidays)

For your partner you choose. You have fallen in love with him or her and want to share your life together. But you also get a family in law. You can be lucky, but there is also the chance of having a bad luck. Then you have a in-laws or a clean-family member with whom you can not go through one door at all. Even so, one in four women hates her mother in law. What are you doing in this case? To some extent you can escape them, but with certain days, such as the holidays, you usually do not get there.You must be together with your in-laws. How do you do that in a decent way? Here are 10 tips to survive your in-laws.

10. Do not expect them to change

Your in-laws are what they are, they are who they are. Unfortunately, there is nothing to change. They think and behave in a certain way. And you can not control it. You have to do that. However, you have control over your own experience world. You can best put yourself in the fact that you have received this in-laws and there is occasionally contact. That’s unfortunately the first step to surviving your in-laws, how bad it is. The following tips are strategies to make the contact you have as portable as possible.

TOP 10 TIPS TO SURVIVE YOUR IN-LAWS (THESE HOLIDAYS)

9. Look for matches

You will have to do it with the less pleasant sides of your in-laws. But think (very deeply) after. Are there any differences between you or are there any similarities? Try to focus on these interfaces, on these shared interests. Try to create conversations about these common interests. Perhaps you both love (certain) sports, travel, gardening, cooking or complaining about high costs. No matter what it is, both parties are happy to talk about it. If it’s (again) about a topic you do not want to talk about (for example, about your joblessness or your role as parent), start over the other topic soon. Can not you really make an agreement? Then there is one thing that almost (almost) always occurs: The love for your friend (s) / spouse and their relative.

 TOP 10 TIPS TO SURVIVE YOUR IN-LAWS (THESE HOLIDAYS)

8. Just do normal

You do not have to do excessively nice, abnormally spontaneous or bulky. You probably do not feel like it if you’re with people you do not like. Just do it normally. What exactly is that? Friendly and polite.Also, you can avoid the most sensitive topics, so that no arguments arise. If you are kind to them, chances are they will be nice to you too. Even though it may feel like one big stage game.

7. Ask for fun things

With the question: “What are you most enthusiastic about in your life?”, You will always receive positive answers. This will prevent you from turning on less fun subjects. Even if you do not think the other’s chatter is so fascinating, it does prevent you from having a nasty personal conversation about you.

6. Go help in the kitchen

Go to the kitchen and offer your help. That is appreciated and you can pretty much shut up the (bad) company in this way. If you are cooking, serving or cleaning, you do not have to bother. Are you still asking questions? Then say something, “Ow sorry, I’m just busy, I can not talk so well.” or “Ow, I just wanted to go to the room to ask if they wanted something else to drink.” There is always a smart way to find out.

5. Do not drink too much alcohol

Self-control is lowered when you drink alcohol. This increases the chances of your emotions being less well regulated. That’s fine in a cozy atmosphere, but less positive in a tense atmosphere. Then drinking (too much) alcohol can make you look very sharp and make it easy to break an irritation into a rage burst. But alcohol works with everyone else. It may be that you can use alcohol (a little bit) of alcohol to make it a little more cozy for yourself. If you know that you do not lose your control (complete), go ahead!

4. Do not pull it too personally

Women in particular are busy with disability related disabilities. This is because they are generally more sensitive and (hence) more inclined to attract things personally. Men also suffer from in-laws, but often to a lesser extent because they are less sensitive and tend to attract things less personally. They think of something, “Well, these idiots are the family of my partner, so I’ll have to go with that.” They place the family in a separate box, locked out of their personal world and are therefore less affected by it. That helps.

TOP 10 TIPS TO SURVIVE YOUR IN-LAWS (THESE HOLIDAYS)

3. Do not walk over you

Probably you have a lot of problems when it comes to your in-laws. At each eruption there’s something to say right away, it’s not that convenient, it’s likely that there will be a continuous fight. But say something about when certain annoyances return, like a joke about your behavior, a annoying way of dealing with your children or a party that has to be celebrated in their own way. Try to choose a good time, keep calm, but also clear and powerful. Speak more in the ‘I think’ form than in the more accusing form, “You are.” That is less offensive to another. Explain what’s happening to you, what kind of feeling it gives you. The chance is that your honesty overlaps the other (s), causing them to be angry or sad. In that case, stay brave and continue the conversation. Even if your words are not in good condition. They now know about it and also the fact that you are not allowed to walk over you. Next time, they will definitely take a better look at what they are doing.

2. Restrict the contact


You are not required to meet your in-laws family very often. That can be as many times as you like.Perhaps your partner can agree a little more with his / her in-laws. Saving invitations from time to time very politely. Just add something that really needs to happen, such as work or a job at home. You can choose to discuss the limited contact with your in-laws: “Let’s be honest, it’s not really good when we’re together, so it’s not better for all parties to keep it on birthdays and / or holidays ? ‘

1. Take away if you suffer from severe injury

If the above tips did not help to survive contact with your in-laws. If your self-esteem or relationship is seriously beginning to suffer from the injuries or insults of your in-laws, consider taking away. It is important that you involve your partner in this decision, so be very clear why you do not see another way out.

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